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We Have Different Religious Beliefs
April 12, 2008 04:51, 294 views
Dear Aunty Funke,
I am 20 years old and dating a very ambitious 24-year old guy. We live in the same house. While he lives with his aunt, I live with mine as well.
His aunt is aware of the relationship while mine thinks he is just a friend. We have been dating for a year now and we love each other very much, but I doubt if his family will accept me because he is a Christian while I am a Muslim. My family may not accept him too. I am tired of keeping it a secret. Do I let the cat out of the bag?
Dear Reader,
You must appreciate the fact that you can’t gain what you haven’t ventured for, so if you have never tried, you cannot hope to succeed. Try and make your families realise how much you love each other. If religion is a factor, then as the head of the home, you could try to accept your husband’s religion if it would bring peace. This is something you should think about carefully. All the best.
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Jude Obiehi
15 June 2008 16:50You better let your parents or betterstill your confidant be aware of the relationship, so as to test their pulse and know if they will not constitute a wahala to your love with the relatiosnhip.
You have already invested one year of your time and body in the relatiosnhip, the guy go just chop you go! And in cases like that it is a thankless chopping.
Ladi
16 July 2008 12:49Young Lady, it is better for you to stand your ground. If Muslim men can change to their ladies’ religion (mostly Christian) all because of love, then this guy should be able to change to a Muslim too. If not, then that means he does not love you, so forget.
enyi ogbo
18 July 2008 09:42please take some time out and look inward, what i mean is check if you are really in love with him dont be sentimental about it. tell your parents and move on.
enike
26 July 2008 10:23religion is no barria were there is love,let your parents know about it.
best of luck
La Baba
1 August 2008 (4 weeks ago) 18:53Uhmm, I was once in a similar situation but we were able to managed our seperation with the believe that sometime LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH, takin into consideration our african family value, you just cannt wish them away from your future and importantly the kids, if you ever gets to have one.They form part of your future too, what faith do you wish on them without sentimental victor/ loser on either (parent) side?.Marriage is a diff ball game entirely my dear, except you want to live it the western world style of 1,000N for 1 or what does it cost to have a registry wedding?
chiluv
13 August 2008 (3 weeks ago) 12:04Religion or No Religion if d Love is dere…inform Ur parent and go on ur relationship….
Life gone on… Good Luck…..
Idoko J.
18 August 2008 (2 weeks ago) 15:26Hi Baby Girl! to be honest with u a lady has no religion not until after marriage, it is after marriage that u can say u belong to one religion or the other becos the husband as the head of the family decide on which religion u are to belong, so if u truely love this guy religion should not be a problem.
I wish u all the best.